All kinds of love in this LIFE

When did "living the dream" become some nightmare?? Too many people have lost sight of just living and being happy.  You can find happiness just about anywhere if you look...riding down the road, windows down, radio up puts a smile on my face just about any time. .or watching my two seemingly argumentative-bound teenagers spending time just talking & laughing with each other warms my heart...or just a good laugh with a friend can make all the wrong decisions you've ever made seem worth it because you're in that moment where you understand what truly is important in this life....LOVE. Love comes in many shapes, sizes, and colors so we shouldn't limit the capacity with which we love nor should love have to remain within certain boundaries.  Society leads us to believe that love has to be returned in order to be valid or expressed.   BULLSHIT!!! Just because a person doesn't love you in the exact same way doesn't mean your love is any less.  It simply means that it may not be returned in the same fashion that it was given but that should never be the point.  We can't help who our hearts find worthy to speak to in this life...all we can do is listen to the conversation & hope we learn something - insightful!!! Sooo, don't be afraid to love & don't be afraid to tell those in your life that you love them...I would rather say it than regret someone never knowing!!!

"Jen's Ten"

I came up with “Jen’s Ten”.  Top ten things that I want.   So, let’s run down that top 10 checklist, shall we?

1. Say “Laters, Baby” when saying goodbye (Mr. Christian Grey makes it just seem completely HOT to hear that)

2. Tell me what you want in no uncertain terms with no reading between any lines and no confusion within the statement (because I can find doubt in just about any corner or crevice of a conversation)

3. Make me laugh even when I don’t want to

4. Wear AMAZING man-smelling deodorant (just go with it)

5. Be YOU and never feel a need to put on or pretend you’re someone you’re not

6. Quite possibly need a hearing aid (or enjoy listening to incessant talking at times)

7. Willing to call me on all of my bullshit and not let me slide on it (because, honestly, I’m tired of sliding by on it)

8. Honest (but not to a fault, because you know what you shouldn’t tell me)

9. Pick a pet name that is original (no pookie, sweetie, honey pie, or darling).

10. Surprise me often (by staying when it’s not always easy)

There it is…in black and white…no hiding from it anymore. It’s not much…just all that I want.

Old Spice??

In this digital age of dirtiness, the subtle art of sexiness seems to have taken a back seat to sex (pun intended of course).  These days it's just so easy to send that text or snap & send a pic that would make your momma smack you, but is that what sexy has been reduced to? Reduced to a dirty picture that will probably end up on the Internet one day...Reduced to a text that leaves nothing to the imagination...But what one person finds to be sexy another individual may not...like the smell of a man's Old Spice deodorant ..Not YOUR speed??  Well, whether it's a smile, a look, a smell, or even a quality that someone exhibits that you find irresistible, appreciate the feeling that you experience in those moments instead of wanting to jump directly to the end means.   We should all revel in the playfulness of developing and exuding our own sexiness. Determine what you find sexy in someone else & work on amping up your own sexy factor because confidence is one of the sexiest things a person can exhibit..And remember that sexy is not defined by the act of sex but in the feelings of desire & attraction that fuels a spark between people. 
So go ahead and ssk yourself, what do you find sexy??

Living in a different realm

Maybe it's my age or some hormonal urgency that I haven't quite come to grips with yet, but am I turning into a cynical romantic?   I know that is a contradiction within itself but bare with me for a little bit.  The more I watch movies these days I sit and think to myself, "Why can't my life be like a movie, where everything is scripted to lead to some big climax that everyone (mostly me) is waiting to see?".  I believe that most movies are scripted from actual life in some fashion so it's a completely plausible idea.  Too bad some of our scripts have chapters that got jumbled up, shifted around and, I believe at times, all together fogotten! 
So, how do you become a cyncial romantic?  First, you must believe that somewhere inside of you that you have all the sentimental, amorous affection running through your veins like a dormant disease just waiting for the right person to come along for it to be activated.  Second, you must idly sit by and wait for this right person to introduce himself/herself into your life for the sole purpose of being your mushy-madness pin cushion.  Thirdly, you must completely bare your soul to this pin cushion which, I must warn you, will be a dire expression of a non-existent reciprocation of madening adoration.  Lastly (and I believe the most important factor in becoming a cynical romantic), when picking yourself up off that proverbial floor because the delusional enchantment of passion has ended, you must erect the walls of cynicism around your heart.  This means that you can believe all the movies and stories about finding love and living the Cinderella life (life after the evil step-mother and all) but you disavow that this could ever happen for you.  You can believe you are worthy of the momentous love story that captures the hearts of all little girls throughout time but you do not bite into the bullshit of that great story being your story.  Once you accept this to be a fact you will have completed your transformation from the lost broken hearted looking for love to the ever sarcastic cynical romantic that continues to live in the realm of an idea instead of reality. 

Dear Mr. Boredom,

I'm sorry to be writing you like this but you have left me no other alternative.  I
have to be honest with you...I just can't spend any more time with you these days...I would say it's not you it's me but let's face it...it is you!! You come in & offer no excitement or fulfillment to my life which leads me to explore self-destructive behaviors that leave me feeling empty & alone.  So I have made a decision, I'm gonna have to stop you from visiting me so often.  I'm gonna have my hands full of regret & shame for the next little while.  Don't worry though...things will get out of control soon and I'll invite you back...until then, smooches!!!!